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  • 假赞美,真攻击:我会这样,是因为你很棒。
  • Take It as a Compliment
  • 作者:Maria Stoian
  • 出版社代理人:Jessica Kingsley Publishers (英国)
  • 出版时间:2015年11月
  • 页数:100页
  • 已售版权:繁体中文
  • 版权联系人:cecily@peonyliteraryagency.com
内容介绍

*Goodreads 4.26颗星好评(1298人)

 

“我当时十五岁”

 

“我再也没有见过他”

 

“他们在我身后大声嘲笑我。”

 

这本图像回忆录中的故事,汇集了各个年龄段男性和女性的声音,反映了真实的性虐待、暴力和骚扰的经历。

 

作者Maria Stoian 用独特而多变的风格,有力地反映了每一段故事的基调和情绪,并在短短几页内表达了性虐待受害者的复杂情绪,重现了这些经历。

 

这本书的内容涵盖了性暴力、公共性骚扰、家庭虐待和虐待儿童等行为,提醒幸存者他们并不孤单,并呼吁我们所有人采取行动。 这些故事清楚地表明,任何类型的攻击都不是“应该的”。 这并不是“赞美”。

 

本书好评

Take It As A Compliment is a remarkable and moving collection of beautifully illustrated stories portraying the painful and lasting impact of everyday sexual abuse. Maria Stoian reveals herself to be a deft and inventive comic artist. Her colours are beautiful but also poignant, as she draws the lingering shadow of an unwanted touch. Take It As A Compliment is a very welcome and important contribution to the world of comics. -- Sarah Lightman, artist, co-founder of Laydeez do Comics, and editor of the multi-award winning 'Graphic Details: Jewish Women's Confessional Comics in Essays and Interviews'

To put it plainly, it is a voice for the voiceless and one of the most important works in comics this year. ...I can't say it enough just how powerful this comic is. Would it work in another medium? Probably, but there's just something about it as a comic book that really gets the story out there in an impactful way. This may not be your typical comic book purchase, but it's definitely one that everyone, even non-comic readers, should check out. Score: 5/5 -- Comic Bastards

These twenty true stories of sexual harassment, abuse, and assault illustrated in comics form by Stoian are haunting, infuriating, and, while sadly all-too-familiar, powerful testaments of survival. In her graphic novel debut, illustrator Stoian is an art chameleon, adapting her style and use of color to each story. In the tale of a young girl groped on the subway, passengers are in plain black-and-white, while the hands reaching for her are rendered in nauseous greens and oranges. Stark black lines give way to sketchy pencils in a story of betrayal, and garish blocks of color depict a wordless story where the potential for danger looms as frighteningly as in any horror movie. Stories from women and men, submitted anonymously online or told to Stoian in interviews, reveal the many ways predators-strangers, friends, and intimate partners alike-take advantage of others' vulnerabilities. Included at the end is a guide to how to support survivors, get help as a survivor, and spot and intervene in instances of harassment or abuse. Eye-opening and lyrical. -- Publishers Weekly

I would wholeheartedly recommend this book to everyone. I also think it could be quite educational, as it brings to life several situations that some are thought to overreact about, but that really is a form of harassment or abuse. It also informs you that you're not alone. -- The Book Castle blog


Wow.
I had an idea what this graphic novel would be about based on the title, which is what caught my attention to begin with, but I was not prepared for how much this would take my breath away. It was eye opening to see all the different experiences told so openly and factually.

-- Just a Lil' Lost blog

Take it as a Compliment is the furthest thing from a light read as it's possible to be, but its controversial content, while harrowing, is never off-putting. With composition as beautiful as the stories are ugly, the book challenges the reader to support social change through recognition and acceptance of what constitutes sexual harassment and abuse. The collection is an important step in reducing the amount of stories there are to tell. -- Bad Cantina blog

This work is exactly the right sort of material to bring the discussion regarding sexual consent and respect for others, in all its facets, into the light of the mainstream, where it needs to be, for people to be educated about their actions in this sphere and the consequences they will have on others. But above and beyond that worthy fact, it is also a gripping collection of biographical comics brilliantly illustrated which I found fascinating to read. -- Mental Health Today

Unfortunately, it's probably happened to all of us...Stoian's book clearly demonstrates exactly what law enforcement agencies the world over are now learning - that this kind of behaviour does not exist in isolation, but in dialogue with other types of abuse...reading about sexual harassment and assault is not meant to be a cushy, comfortable experience. Stoian's bold, honest illusions of each separate testimony are uncomfortable individually, but put together and read in one go they are profoundly unsettling. To my mind, this is the greatest success of this book - it is like being hit over the head repeatedly with stories of violence, harassment and stalking that are happening every day to all kinds of people and forced to take notice. -- Harriet Earle, Comics Forum

What is present in every story is the lingering shame, loneliness and helplessness of its subject. Some of them are able to stand up for themselves, others aren't sure that their discomfort is valid, but all are given respect by Stoian in her attempt to raise awareness of aggressive behaviour that is often considered a societal norm (...) while her creative and varied illustrations are essential additions to the tone and power of the compilation, it is language that is Stoian's most significant achievement in this project. By having each story told by the person who survived it, she has conceived a method to talk about the effects of abuse, giving a voice to individuals that may have never had the opportunity to share their experience before (...) Take It as a Compliment is the furthest thing from a light read as it's possible to be, but its controversial content, whilst harrowing, it never off-putting. With composition as beautiful as the stories are ugly, the book challenges the reader to support social change through recognition and acceptance of what constitutes sexual harassment and abuse. The collection is an important step in reducing the amount of stories there are to tell. -- Steff Humm, Ink Magazine

 

关于作者

Maria Stoian是一位住在苏格兰的设计师和插画家。她擅长用绘图和游戏,以温和的方式鼓励人们看见自己可能被错待的地方。